• You have a Box. You are not your Box. Neither are they their Box.

    • Your Box

      A COMPLEX CONSTRUCT

      The ‘Box’ is the complex assemblage of the thoughtware that we use to interact with the world. Our thoughtware is what we use to think with. Our thoughtware is our belief system, our assumptions, our conclusions, our stories, our thinking patterns, our assumptions and expectations, our decisions and so on. Other work would call it the Ego, our psychology, our character, our personality. In Possibility Management, we call that the Box. We are mostly not aware of our thoughtware. We have not been trained to think about what we are thinking with. Modern western education does not educate us in looking at what we look at the world with. Investigating our Box is using a magnifying glass to examine the glasses that we use to look at and get impressions from the world.

      A 360 DEGREE FILTER

      Think of the Box as a box in which you stand in, surrounded by the vast unlimited possibilities laying in the Universe. Whatever makes it into your Box is what is possible for you. The possibilities that make it inside your Box is what you have right now in terms of relationship, family, job, money, Love, time, authenticity, etc... Everything that is outside your Box you cannot see, sense, experience, imagine, describe, or create.
       
      Your Box is a filter between you and the vast unlimited potential ‘out there’. The Box filters what you can express and what you can experience: what you hear, what you see, what you smell, what you notice. For example, a dairy farmer can look at the herd of cows and know instantly which one is sick, which one is pregnant, which ones are healthy, which one needs water, and so on. Whereas a city man would only see ‘cows’ without any finer distinction between them. We would say the dairy farmer as an expanded Box compared to the city man in the domains of cows.
       
      Through simple observations we can discover that the Box serves to buffer us from the unknown. What is in the Box is known. What is outside of the Box is unknown. The purpose of our Box is therefore to give us protection, comfort, self-definition, and security. When it comes to the bottom line, the purpose of our Box is to insure our survival.

       

      We create our Box as children. As children we come up with the best solution to survive when faced with a given problem. As it works, we integrate that particular response as our ‘normal’ way of being. The ego is created. Some children identify the best solution as being the nice girl/nice boy that always pleases their parents. Others realize that playing small, being invisible, disappearing is the best solution to face authority figures. Others again classify that being a rebellious child gives them some form of attention - better negative attention than no attention at all. Over the years of working with people we have come to recognize about eighteen standard Box defense strategies. All of them are effective. Please find the list at 18 Boxes Bubble (http://18boxes.mystrikingly.com/). The list is not intended to be systematic or all inclusive. The value of this list is reading through it to recognize which defense strategies your Box uses. You may also recognize a number of your friends in this list.

      AN EGGSHELL

      A bird’s eggshell is designed to protect the baby bird until it can stand on its own two feet. A chrysalis is designed to protect a caterpillar’s transformation into something that can fly. Likewise, the Box is designed to defend us until we are ready to shift from childhood to our life as a free and natural adult human being.

       

      The transition from childhood to adulthood is intended to take place at around fifteen years of age. We are not structurally capable of taking responsibility before fifteen. But, tragically, our culture does not provide a rite of passage for us. If we do not go through the process that changes the purpose of our Box from its originally defensive and purely survival-based purpose to a mature, expansive, self-development, evolutionary purpose, then our Box, which once protected us, then becomes our prison.

      THE PURPOSE

      If your Box is dedicated to defending itself, then the purpose of your actions will be to protect your positions, blame or attack others, compete for resources, justify yourself, regard yourself as “right” and others as “wrong,” feel resentment, and as a last resort destroy or isolate. These strategies are the foundation for creating ordinary gameworlds serving shadow principles. If you change the purpose of your Box from defending itself to expanding itself, then your actions will have a completely different quality. A Box dedicated to expanding itself directs your actions toward exploring new territory, going beyond restrictive limits, self-development, discovery, trying new things, learning, growth, welcoming surprises, experimenting, and so on. Reading a book such as this and practicing with the suggested experiments is a Box-expanding action.

       

      Our Box long ago concluded that if it can survive, then we can survive. That ancient decision still holds dominance until we radically change the game we are playing. Our Box is extremely resilient, fast, clever, subtle, and justified in its self-defense. Without us making intelligent conscious efforts to create alternative options, our Box will minimize chances to play a different game and will control the way we show up in the world for the rest of our days. A defensive Box does not let anyone get in closer to you than the limit of itself. It does not even let you go to the edge and explore what is beyond. If you attempt to move towards the edge, your Box screams “What are you doing? What are you doing? If you go there, we will die! Die! Do you hear me? Die! Go back inside! Now!” Without the possibility of traveling to the edge of yourself, new games are never revealed to you.

    • You And Your Box

      From Possibility Management Trainer Katharina Kaifler.

    • Liquid State Website, StartOver.xyz, Possibility Management

      WARNING!

      You will encounter unavoidable Liquid States plus authentic Healing and Transformation during 'Box Expansion' experiences!

       

      This is not a joke. Changing a solid object - such as the many Parts of your Survival Strategy Box - from one shape into another shape, occurs through a fluidic transition period known as the 'Liquid State'.

       

      During a Liquid State, many things once believed to be solid, true, or real, melt down and rearrange themselves with each other, both within you and around you. In addition to that, some things fall away, and some completely new and probably unexpected things may suddenly appear.

       

      Please choose wisely to proceed with reading these StartOver.xyz websites or engaging in these Experiments, including the Expand The Box (ETB) Training.

       

      The thing is, this stuff actually unfolds your potentials and creates a new future for you to step into as an Adult.

       

      If you love the life that you have and the ways that you are, if you love what is happening now in your relationships and in the world around you: DO NOT PROCEED!

       

      Stop right here and return to watching TV series for your entertainment.

       

      Initiation, Healing, and Transformation is not for everyone.

       

      Perhaps it is not for you.

       

      The choice is yours, and YOU are responsible for your choices. Irresponsibility is a Fantasy World.

       

      To understand further what we mean by the term 'Liquid State', and what it might mean for you personally, please explore the Liquid State website.

       

      Thank you for your cooperation...

    • BOX BASICS

      A Talk by Clinton Callahan

    • Expand Your Box

      'Expanding your Box' means to acquire real behavior possibilities that were not available before.

       

      Two methods have been discovered to effectively expand the Box, a 'push' method and a 'pull' method.

       

      The 'Push Method' comes from Werner Heisenberg.

       

      The 'Pull Method' comes from Santa Claus.

      THE 'PUSH' METHOD OF EXPANDING YOUR BOX

      Werner Heisenberg (died 1976) was a world-class Scientist who formulated many of the original mathematical models for quantum physics.

       

      The 'Push Method' of Box Expansion derives from what has come to be known as 'The Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle'. In layman’s terminology, the 'Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle' says that details of a situation cannot be known without interfering in the situation.

       

      In other words, the closer you look at something, the more you change it.

       

      This effect is terrible in quantum physics, but is fantastic for expanding the Box.

       

      This means, the closer you observe and investigate the structure, purpose and technology of your Box, the more it unfolds in expanding fluidity founded in clarity, love, possibility and evolution. Voila! Box Expansion!

      THE 'PULL METHOD OF EXPANDING YOUR BOX

      Santa Clause (still living...) is a world-class Wizard who - from time-to-time - swings by your place on his sleigh, pops down the chimney, and opens up his endlessly big bag of gifts, inviting you to reach inside and take anything you want for free.

       

      The 'Pull Method' of Box Expansion is derived from what has come to be known as 'Gifts Of Unknown Things' Principle (the title of a recommended book by Lyall Watson, Matrix Code BOOK0165.00 for StartOver.xyz). In layman's terminology, The 'Gifts Of Unknown Things Principle' says that receiving a surprise gift with seemingly magical powers will induce you to do whatever it takes to learn how to use it.

       

      In other words, to learn to make use of the magical gifts, you will are tempted to enter new territory.

       

      Fear of the unknown is usually what stops people from undertaking their own Hero's Journey Quest, but it is the the most attractive catalyst in real-life Transformation.

       

      This means, the open toolbox of transformational tools, thoughtmaps, distinctions and processes we offer you at Expand The Box training is inspiring enough for you to try new behaviors. Since the tools actually work, you keep going! Voila! Box expansion!

    • Your Box's NITs

      100 NITs EXAMPLES

      A 'louse' (plural: 'lice') is a tiny insect that thrives in hair and feathers. The human head louse, or Pediculus humanus capitis, is a parasitic insect that is happy to live on your head, eyebrows, and eyelashes. Head lice feed on human blood several times a day and live close to the human scalp. They can lay up to eight eggs per day on individual hairs. Lice eggs are called 'nits'. Lice are irritating, to say the least (also on dogs, cats, birds, mice, hamsters, monkeys, etc.). This is why you may have seen birds or monkeys helping pick off the lice and nits from each other.

       

      In Possibility Management we have adopted the word 'Nit' from the English term 'nitpicking', first used in 1956, which means 'to give too much attention to unimportant details, looking for small errors or faults, especially in order to criticize unnecessarily'.

       

      In PM the term 'Nit' represents each person's Box Habits that can be so irritating, most especially irritating to others. Nits cause families to argue, clans to feud, partners to yell at each other or split up, even cultural or religious gameworlds to go to war against each other.

       

      Nits are the source of the central consciousness evolution practice as defined by George Ivanovich Gurdjieff as: "Enduring the unpleasant manifestations of others."

       

      Becoming aware of the consequences of your own Nits, as merely Nits, gives you and others many valuable opportunities, such as:

      Below is a list of 100 Examples of Nits.

       

      How many of these do you have as structures on your Box?

       

      How many of these irritate your Box to no end if they are on other Boxes?

       

      Please remember, your Nits are not right (or wrong). And also, other people's Nits are not wrong (or right). They are all Nits, dead mechanical manifestations of your Box design.

       

      The objective of working with Nits is NOT to try to change the other person so all their bothersome behaviors vanish and you can 'live in peace'.

       

      Did you ever try to change someone else? (Yes.) Did it work? (No.)

       

      This is why detecting Nits, and naming them as 'Nits', is such a powerful Practice. Once a Nit is classified as a Nit, instead of creating "You are such an idiot!" Reactivity, it creates so much new Possibility in your Relating.

      100 EXAMPLE NITs

      1. When to empty the trashcan (e.g., For one Box a trashcan must ABSOLUTELY be emptied
      if it has anything in it at all. For another Box the trashcan is regretfully emptied
      only when not another thing can possibly be stuffed into it and pieces overflow
      onto the floor. Neither is right. Neither is wrong. The perceptions and the
      associated thoughts and feelings are all propelled by Nits!)
      2. How to hang the laundry
      3. Where to put things in the refrigerator
      4. How to know when the spaghetti is ready
      5. How much salt to put in the potatoes
      6. How loud is loud (music, arguing kids, television)
      7. How much is enough light to read by
      8. How strong is good coffee
      9. How to fold the sheets while making the bed
      10. Which boundaries are necessary for healthy children
      11. How to parallel park the car
      12. The best procedure for drying the dishes
      13. The proper way to squeeze toothpaste out of the tube
      14. When is the toothpaste tube actually empty
      15. When do the windows or mirrors actually need cleaning

      16. Whose job is it to pay the bills, maintain the cars, get rid of bugs or rodents,
      change the light bulbs
      17. How friendly to be with the neighbors
      18. How much time with the relatives is too much time with the relatives
      19. What words to use when answering the telephone
      20. How to clean the toilet when it is dirty
      21. Who cleans the toilet when it is dirty
      22. Do toilets even get dirty?
      23. When to use credit cards; how much cash to carry
      24. How much suntan a person needs to be healthy or beautiful
      25. How to dress appropriately for each occasion
      26. How long is needed in the bathroom
      27. When to arrive: early, exactly on time, five minutes late, twenty minutes late
      28. What constitutes a good breakfast
      29. When to eat lunch or dinner
      30. How much fat around the middle is too much fat
      31. The importance of self-improvement or spiritual work
      32. The value of art; what to hang in the hallway
      33. How many knick-knacks to have around the house
      34. The importance of knowing the news
      35. The entertainment value of sports
      36. How to load the dishwasher
      37. When does the car need cleaning
      38. How much is the dog a member of the family; where does the dog sleep
      39. How to play tennis together: to win or to enjoy the exercise and the
      company?
      40. How to pull the weeds, cut the hedges, plant the flowers; are there weeds?
      41. How badly cat piss smells
      42. How much is enough ice cream
      43. How much is too much sugar for the kids
      44. How to decorate the living room
      45. What books or magazines are worth keeping around the house
      46. How many extra plastic bags or empty cardboard boxes do we need
      47. How many rubber bands to keep and where
      48. What should go on the refrigerator
      49. Who are our friends
      50. What constitutes fun
      51. How much time off equates to a vacation
      52. How important is politics

      53. How much effort to use recycling
      54. Where to go for a good restaurant meal
      55. What makes a good melon
      56. What makes a good man
      57. What should a functional desk look like
      58. How to organize the tax papers
      59. What to do about writing Christmas thank-you cards
      60. What about the children’s school grades
      61. When is something dusty enough to require dusting or vacuuming
      62. Who to call to personally wish them a Happy Birthday
      63. Do we say a prayer or not say a prayer before meals
      64. Do we get married; what last name does the wife take; wedding rings
      65. What is a good movie
      66. How late is too late to stay up
      67. What is a funny joke
      68. What is good sex
      69. What is too much or not enough sex
      70. How much is too much television; how many televisions to have
      71. Who decides how we drive there; who reads the map
      72. When to shovel the snow; how perfectly should it be shoveled
      73. What to keep in the freezer
      74. Where to clean the fish
      75. How many packages of chips to buy
      76. Where to shop for the best grocery deals
      77. Floss teeth before or after brushing; floss teeth at all
      78. Where to put the dirty clothes; when are clothes actually dirty
      79. When to fill the car up with gas; where; who checks the oil
      80. How many pairs of shoes to own
      81. How many movies are too many movies; buy or rent
      82. Where to keep notepaper and pens
      83. Where to keep the keys
      84. To color or not color the hair; makeup or no makeup; how long hair
      85. Sexual apparatus or not; sexual stimulants or not
      86. How much sleep is really needed
      87. To go to church or not; to belong to a church or not
      88. How many vitamins to take
      89. How much time to spend exercising
      90. How long to stay on the telephone
      91. How late should the kids stay out

      92. Should our daughter have an older boyfriend
      93. What clothes are decent for a teenager
      94. How much money to owe to banks or other people
      95. How much is too much alcohol, gambling, or drugs
      96. How much emergency food or supplies to keep around the house
      97. How much insurance to have
      98. When to mow the lawn; when to cut the shrubbery
      99. Are potatoes and carrots better peeled or with the skins on
      100. What constitutes flirting

    • Box Experiments

      To get to know your own Box

      Which Box Have You Build For Yourself?

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.01:

      Write down in your Beep! Book which one of the 18 standard boxes you are, it could be that you are a mix of 2 or 3 boxes, usually not more than that.

      BOX TECHNOLOGY NITS AND YOUR PARTS

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.04

      Review the list of 100 Nits above, and write down two lists in your Beep! Book:

      1. NITS OF MY BOX

      2. NITS OF OTHERS THAT DRIVE MY BOX CRAZY

      Each one of your Nits (see the context section above) AND each one of your Nit Reactions came from somewhere.

      This Experiment is to choose 10 of your Nits and 10 of your Nit Reactions and do whatever it takes to find exactly when and where they came from. What incident or interaction happened in that moment you Decided to build that particular Nit or the Nit Reaction into your Box?

      Do not try to change anything about the Nits or Nit Reactions at this point. This is a time for Self Observation, and for letting the unconscious pain or pain-avoidance technique become painfully conscious.

       

      Box Technology And Your Survival Strategy

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      Box Technology And Your Beliefs

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.02

      Box Technology And Your Assumptions

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.05

      Box Technology And Your Positionality

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      Box Technology And Your Prejudices

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      Box Technology And Your Conclusions

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.03

      Box Technology And Your Projections

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.07

      Box Technology And Your Expectations

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.06

      Box Technology And Your Resentments

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.08

      Box Technology And Your Fantasy Worlds

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      Box Technology And Your Relationships

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.09

      List the strategies that you use with members of the opposite sex.

      List the stories you hold about men.

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.10

      List the stories you hold about women.

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.11

      Box Technology And Your Roles

      Matrix Code SPARK187.00

      SPARK187 You do not have roles. You have a life.

      Read together at a Possibility Team and do the experiments.

      Box Technology And The Design Of Your Box

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      Draw your Box in excruciatingly precise detail.

      Get out your Beep!Book and draw a picture of your Box with the different shapes, characteristics, regions, domains of interest, and all the things and spaces that your Box has control of your life.

      Box Technology And The Comparison With Other Boxes

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.13

      List the differences between your Box and other people's Box.

      In comparison to other people. Make a list of 150 differences and similarities between your Box and the Box of someone else you are living with or see on a regular basis.

      Notice that this is your Box and their Box.

      Example. My desk has to be full of papers, and notes, and cables, their desk has to be neat and tidy.

      Two Boxes occupying the same space at the same time.

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      Write a short theatre piece for 5min, involving two characters that have two completely different Boxes, that speak to each other. Film yourself and play both sides. For inspiration watch Eddie Izzard's Dressed To Kill.

      Self-observation.

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      Detect the exact moment where the Box takes command. When you feel an emotion, which of the 5 bodies gets activated and runs on a survival or comfort driver? At what point do you loose being a free being?

      Box Technology And Your Reactivity

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      Make a list of the buttons on your Box and the reaction to each.

      Hello, this is my Box.

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      Obtain a cardboard box and carry it around for 24 hours. This is your Box. Every time you find a button, you write it or draw it on the Box. Examples: "I have to be on time", "I am vegan. "; "my shirt has to match my socks"; "if somebody is late I get to hate them."

      Box Technology And Your Possibility Team

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      In pairs in a Possibility Team every time you are having a conversation, one sentence is about making your Box more comfortable. "could you turn the music down?", It's about staying in your marshmallow zone of your Box. The next offer is to go to the edge of your Box. And then you go back to the marshmallow, and then back to edge. Keep doing that to have the experience

      Agree with the Boxes.

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      During a whole day, every time you are having a conversation, just agree with their reactions, conclusions, and projections. Do this in the same day with 10 different Boxes.

      Who is speaking?

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      Get in pairs or groups of 3, with one or two coaches. For one hour, take turns. Let something besides your Box speak. Coach says "that's your Box, I want to hear something from your Being", or "something besides your box, like your Pearl, Archetypal Lineage, your anger, your child ego state".

      Speed of your Box.

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      For a week, 3 times a day, change the speed of your speaking either uncomfortably faster or slower, and speak with another person for 10 minutes.

      Change your speaking.

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      For a week, 3 times a day, change your speaking. Speak from a different character, from a different country or time, from with a different religion than yours, sexual orientation, from a differently abled person, with a speech impediment, from someone who is missing something, or is a teacher, or doctor, or president, and speak for 10 minutes.

      Imitate Boxes.

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      Imitate the neurotic small subtle behaviours of your friend. Tell your friend that you are doing an experiment and learning to be more flexible in yourself.

      Tell their Box.

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      In pairs, tell the person in front of you about their Box. Example: "I see you think you are a women, I see that you think you are from Paris, I see that you have the story that you like orange juice". Ask them to tell you about yours.

      Ambidextrous.

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      Use your less dextrous hand and do the things you would use your dextrous hand to do.

      Box not changing.

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      Call up your mother, brother, sister or someone who knows you since a very long time. Tell them "I think that I changed. I think there are a few things that I didn't change. Please tell me about all the ways that I have not changed". Write them all down.

      Natural products.

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      Go to the store and buy 10 different natural products that your box doesn't want you to use: charcoal toothpaste, skin cream and that is only made of aloe vera, placenta healing salve, etc. Use it and notice you Box reactions. Write down in beep!book the exact reaction, how your Box tries to control, what commments it creates in your head to defend itself.

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      Clothing.

      Go to the store and buy 10 differnt natural products that your box doesn't want you to yuse, charcoal toothpaste, skincream and that is only aloa vera, placenta healing cream, and use it, and notice in your wirte down in notebook your reactions the extac reaction, and how your Box tries to control, what commments it has to defend itself.

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      Food

      Go to the restaurant, pick the thing that you want and then order the second down from that and order that instead.

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      Go to the restaurant order what you want and don't eat it.

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

      Put on lipstick and smear the side, guy put a ribbon and mascara on and go out to work like. Tie your tie badly and leave some grandma ladies underwear out of your pocktets. put a crack in your boxes perfectionism.

    • The Nothing Box

      The Nothing Box (Matrix Code YOUTUBEx.46 for StartOver.xyz)

    • StartOver.xyz

      NOTE: This website is a Bubble in the Bubble Map of the free-to-play, massively-multiplayer, online-and-offline, thoughtware-upgrade, matrix-building, personal-transformation, adventure-game called StartOver.xyz. It is a doorway to experiments that upgrade your thoughtware so you can create more possibility. Your knowledge is what you think about. Your thoughtware is what you use to think with. When you change your thoughtware, you go through a liquid state as your mind reorganizes itself. Liquid states can bring up transformational feelings and emotions. By upgrading your thoughtware you build matrix to hold more consciousness and leave behind a life of reactivity. No one can upgrade your thoughtware for you. No one can stop you from upgrading your thoughtware. Our theory is that when we collectively build 1,000,000 new Matrix Points we will change the morphogenetic field of the human race for the better. Please choose responsibly to read this website. Reading this whole website is worth 1 Matrix Point. Doing any of the experiments earns you additional Matrix Points. Please use Matrix Code BOXTECHN.00 to log your Matrix Point for reading this website on StartOver.xyz. Thank you for playing full out!

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