If your Box is dedicated to defending itself, then the purpose of your actions will be to protect your positions, blame or attack others, compete for resources, justify yourself, regard yourself as “right” and others as “wrong,” feel resentment, and as a last resort destroy or isolate. These strategies are the foundation for creating ordinary gameworlds serving shadow principles. If you change the purpose of your Box from defending itself to expanding itself, then your actions will have a completely different quality. A Box dedicated to expanding itself directs your actions toward exploring new territory, going beyond restrictive limits, self-development, discovery, trying new things, learning, growth, welcoming surprises, experimenting, and so on. Reading a book such as this and practicing with the suggested experiments is a Box-expanding action.
Our Box long ago concluded that if it can survive, then we can survive. That ancient decision still holds dominance until we radically change the game we are playing. Our Box is extremely resilient, fast, clever, subtle, and justified in its self-defense. Without us making intelligent conscious efforts to create alternative options, our Box will minimize chances to play a different game and will control the way we show up in the world for the rest of our days. A defensive Box does let anyone get in closer to you than the limit of itself. It does not even let you go to the edge and explore what is beyond. If you attempt to move towards the edge, your Box screams “What are you doing? What are you doing? If you go there, we will die! Die! Do you hear me? Die! Go back inside! Now!” Without the possibility of traveling to the edge of yourself, new games are never revealed to you.