• You have a Box. You are not your Box. Neither are they their Box.

    • Your Box

      A COMPLEX CONSTRUCT

      The ‘Box’ is the complex assemblage of the thoughtware that we use to interact with the world. Our thoughtware is what we use to think with. Our thoughtware is our belief system, our assumptions, our conclusions, our stories, our thinking patterns, our assumptions and expectations, our decisions and so on. Other work would call it the Ego, our psychology, our character, our personality. In Possibility Management, we call that the Box. We are mostly not aware of our thoughtware. We have not been trained to think about what we are thinking with. Modern western education does not educate us in looking at what we look at the world with. Investigating our Box is using a magnifying glass to examine the glasses that we use to look at and get impressions from the world.

      A 360 DEGREE FILTER

      Think of the Box as a box in which you stand in, surrounded by the vast unlimited possibilities laying in the Universe. Whatever makes it into your Box is what is possible for you. The possibilities that make it inside your Box is what you have right now in terms of relationship, family, job, money, Love, time, authenticity, etc... Everything that is outside your Box you cannot see, sense, experience, imagine, describe, or create.
       
      Your Box is a filter between you and the vast unlimited potential ‘out there’. The Box filters what you can express and what you can experience: what you hear, what you see, what you smell, what you notice. For example, a dairy farmer can look at the herd of cows and know instantly which one is sick, which one is pregnant, which ones are healthy, which one needs water, and so on. Whereas a city man would only see ‘cows’ without any finer distinction between them. We would say the dairy farmer as an expanded Box compared to the city man in the domains of cows.
       
      Through simple observations we can discover that the Box serves to buffer us from the unknown. What is in the Box is known. What is outside of the Box is unknown. The purpose of our Box is therefore to give us protection, comfort, self-definition, and security. When it comes to the bottom line, the purpose of our Box is to insure our survival.

       

      We create our Box as children. As children we come up with the best solution to survive when faced with a given problem. As it works, we integrate that particular response as our ‘normal’ way of being. The ego is created. Some children identify the best solution as being the nice girl/nice boy that always pleases their parents. Others realize that playing small, being invisible, disappearing is the best solution to face authority figures. Others again classify that being a rebellious child gives them some form of attention - better negative attention than no attention at all. Over the years of working with people we have come to recognize about eighteen standard Box defense strategies. All of them are effective. Please find the list at 18 Boxes Bubble (http://18boxes.mystrikingly.com/). The list is not intended to be systematic or all inclusive. The value of this list is reading through it to recognize which defense strategies your Box uses. You may also recognize a number of your friends in this list.

      AN EGGSHELL

      A bird’s eggshell is designed to protect the baby bird until it can stand on its own two feet. A chrysalis is designed to protect a caterpillar’s transformation into something that can fly. Likewise, the Box is designed to defend us until we are ready to shift from childhood to our life as a free and natural adult human being.

       

      The transition from childhood to adulthood is intended to take place at around fifteen years of age. We are not structurally capable of taking responsibility before fifteen. But, tragically, our culture does not provide a rite of passage for us. If we do not go through the process that changes the purpose of our Box from its originally defensive and purely survival-based purpose to a mature, expansive, self-development, evolutionary purpose, then our Box, which once protected us, then becomes our prison.

      THE PURPOSE

      If your Box is dedicated to defending itself, then the purpose of your actions will be to protect your positions, blame or attack others, compete for resources, justify yourself, regard yourself as “right” and others as “wrong,” feel resentment, and as a last resort destroy or isolate. These strategies are the foundation for creating ordinary gameworlds serving shadow principles. If you change the purpose of your Box from defending itself to expanding itself, then your actions will have a completely different quality. A Box dedicated to expanding itself directs your actions toward exploring new territory, going beyond restrictive limits, self-development, discovery, trying new things, learning, growth, welcoming surprises, experimenting, and so on. Reading a book such as this and practicing with the suggested experiments is a Box-expanding action.

       

      Our Box long ago concluded that if it can survive, then we can survive. That ancient decision still holds dominance until we radically change the game we are playing. Our Box is extremely resilient, fast, clever, subtle, and justified in its self-defense. Without us making intelligent conscious efforts to create alternative options, our Box will minimize chances to play a different game and will control the way we show up in the world for the rest of our days. A defensive Box does not let anyone get in closer to you than the limit of itself. It does not even let you go to the edge and explore what is beyond. If you attempt to move towards the edge, your Box screams “What are you doing? What are you doing? If you go there, we will die! Die! Do you hear me? Die! Go back inside! Now!” Without the possibility of traveling to the edge of yourself, new games are never revealed to you.

    • You And Your Box

      From Possibility Management Trainer Katharina Kaifler.

    • Liquid State Website, StartOver.xyz, Possibility Management

      WARNING!

      You will encounter unavoidable Liquid States plus authentic Healing and Transformation during 'Box Expansion' experiences!

       

      This is not a joke. Changing a solid object - such as the many Parts of your Survival Strategy Box - from one shape into another shape, occurs through a fluidic transition period known as the 'Liquid State'.

       

      During a Liquid State, many things once believed to be solid, true, or real, melt down and rearrange themselves with each other, both within you and around you. In addition to that, some things fall away, and some completely new and probably unexpected things may suddenly appear.

       

      Please choose wisely to proceed with reading these StartOver.xyz websites or engaging in these Experiments, including the Expand The Box (ETB) Training.

       

      The thing is, this stuff actually unfolds your potentials and creates a new future for you to step into as an Adult.

       

      If you love the life that you have and the ways that you are, if you love what is happening now in your relationships and in the world around you: DO NOT PROCEED!

       

      Stop right here and return to watching TV series for your entertainment.

       

      Initiation, Healing, and Transformation is not for everyone.

       

      Perhaps it is not for you.

       

      The choice is yours, and YOU are responsible for your choices. Irresponsibility is a Fantasy World.

       

      To understand further what we mean by the term 'Liquid State', and what it might mean for you personally, please explore the Liquid State website.

       

      Thank you for your cooperation...

    • BOX BASICS

      A Talk by Clinton Callahan

    • Expand Your Box

      'Expanding your Box' means to acquire real behavior possibilities that were not available before.

       

      Two methods have been discovered to effectively expand the Box, a 'push' method and a 'pull' method.

       

      The 'Push Method' comes from Werner Heisenberg.

       

      The 'Pull Method' comes from Santa Claus.

      THE 'PUSH' METHOD OF EXPANDING YOUR BOX

      Werner Heisenberg (died 1976) was a world-class Scientist who formulated many of the original mathematical models for quantum physics.

       

      The 'Push Method' of Box Expansion derives from what has come to be known as 'The Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle'. In layman’s terminology, the 'Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle' says that details of a situation cannot be known without interfering in the situation.

       

      In other words, the closer you look at something, the more you change it.

       

      This effect is terrible in quantum physics, but is fantastic for expanding the Box.

       

      This means, the closer you observe and investigate the structure, purpose and technology of your Box, the more it unfolds in expanding fluidity founded in clarity, love, possibility and evolution. Voila! Box Expansion!

      THE 'PULL METHOD OF EXPANDING YOUR BOX

      Santa Clause (still living...) is a world-class Wizard who - from time-to-time - swings by your place on his sleigh, pops down the chimney, and opens up his endlessly big bag of gifts, inviting you to reach inside and take anything you want for free.

       

      The 'Pull Method' of Box Expansion is derived from what has come to be known as 'Gifts Of Unknown Things' Principle (the title of a recommended book by Lyall Watson, Matrix Code BOOK0165.00 for StartOver.xyz). In layman's terminology, The 'Gifts Of Unknown Things Principle' says that receiving a surprise gift with seemingly magical powers will induce you to do whatever it takes to learn how to use it.

       

      In other words, to learn to make use of the magical gifts, you will are tempted to enter new territory.

       

      Fear of the unknown is usually what stops people from undertaking their own Hero's Journey Quest, but it is the the most attractive catalyst in real-life Transformation.

       

      This means, the open toolbox of transformational tools, thoughtmaps, distinctions and processes we offer you at Expand The Box training is inspiring enough for you to try new behaviors. Since the tools actually work, you keep going! Voila! Box expansion!

    • Your Box's NITs

      100 NITs EXAMPLES

      A 'louse' (plural: 'lice') is a tiny insect that thrives in hair and feathers. The human head louse, or Pediculus humanus capitis, is a parasitic insect that is happy to live on your head, eyebrows, and eyelashes. Head lice feed on human blood several times a day and live close to the human scalp. They can lay up to eight eggs per day on individual hairs. Lice eggs are called 'nits'. Lice are irritating, to say the least (also on dogs, cats, birds, mice, hamsters, monkeys, etc.). This is why you may have seen birds or monkeys helping pick off the lice and nits from each other.

       

      In Possibility Management we have adopted the word 'Nit' from the English term 'nitpicking', first used in 1956, which means 'to give too much attention to unimportant details, looking for small errors or faults, especially in order to criticize unnecessarily'.

       

      In PM the term 'Nit' represents each person's Box Habits that can be so irritating, most especially irritating to others. Nits cause families to argue, clans to feud, partners to yell at each other or split up, even cultural or religious gameworlds to go to war against each other.

       

      Nits are the source of the central consciousness evolution practice as defined by George Ivanovich Gurdjieff as: "Enduring the unpleasant manifestations of others."

       

      Becoming aware of the consequences of your own Nits, as merely Nits, gives you and others many valuable opportunities, such as:

      Below is a list of 100 Examples of Nits.

       

      How many of these do you have as structures on your Box?

       

      How many of these irritate your Box to no end if they are on other Boxes?

       

      Please remember, your Nits are not right (or wrong). And also, other people's Nits are not wrong (or right). They are all Nits, dead mechanical manifestations of your Box design.

       

      The objective of working with Nits is NOT to try to change the other person so all their bothersome behaviors vanish and you can 'live in peace'.

       

      Did you ever try to change someone else? (Yes.) Did it work? (No.)

       

      This is why detecting Nits, and naming them as 'Nits', is such a powerful Practice. Once a Nit is classified as a Nit, instead of creating "You are such an idiot!" Reactivity, it creates so much new Possibility in your Relating.

      100 EXAMPLE NITs

      1. When to empty the trashcan (e.g., For one Box a trashcan must ABSOLUTELY be emptied
      if it has anything in it at all. For another Box the trashcan is regretfully emptied
      only when not another thing can possibly be stuffed into it and pieces overflow
      onto the floor. Neither is right. Neither is wrong. The perceptions and the
      associated thoughts and feelings are all propelled by Nits!)
      2. How to hang the laundry
      3. Where to put things in the refrigerator
      4. How to know when the spaghetti is ready
      5. How much salt to put in the potatoes
      6. How loud is loud (music, arguing kids, television)
      7. How much is enough light to read by
      8. How strong is good coffee
      9. How to fold the sheets while making the bed
      10. Which boundaries are necessary for healthy children
      11. How to parallel park the car
      12. The best procedure for drying the dishes
      13. The proper way to squeeze toothpaste out of the tube
      14. When is the toothpaste tube actually empty
      15. When do the windows or mirrors actually need cleaning

      16. Whose job is it to pay the bills, maintain the cars, get rid of bugs or rodents,
      change the light bulbs
      17. How friendly to be with the neighbors
      18. How much time with the relatives is too much time with the relatives
      19. What words to use when answering the telephone
      20. How to clean the toilet when it is dirty
      21. Who cleans the toilet when it is dirty
      22. Do toilets even get dirty?
      23. When to use credit cards; how much cash to carry
      24. How much suntan a person needs to be healthy or beautiful
      25. How to dress appropriately for each occasion
      26. How long is needed in the bathroom
      27. When to arrive: early, exactly on time, five minutes late, twenty minutes late
      28. What constitutes a good breakfast
      29. When to eat lunch or dinner
      30. How much fat around the middle is too much fat
      31. The importance of self-improvement or spiritual work
      32. The value of art; what to hang in the hallway
      33. How many knick-knacks to have around the house
      34. The importance of knowing the news
      35. The entertainment value of sports
      36. How to load the dishwasher
      37. When does the car need cleaning
      38. How much is the dog a member of the family; where does the dog sleep
      39. How to play tennis together: to win or to enjoy the exercise and the
      company?
      40. How to pull the weeds, cut the hedges, plant the flowers; are there weeds?
      41. How badly cat piss smells
      42. How much is enough ice cream
      43. How much is too much sugar for the kids
      44. How to decorate the living room
      45. What books or magazines are worth keeping around the house
      46. How many extra plastic bags or empty cardboard boxes do we need
      47. How many rubber bands to keep and where
      48. What should go on the refrigerator
      49. Who are our friends
      50. What constitutes fun
      51. How much time off equates to a vacation
      52. How important is politics

      53. How much effort to use recycling
      54. Where to go for a good restaurant meal
      55. What makes a good melon
      56. What makes a good man
      57. What should a functional desk look like
      58. How to organize the tax papers
      59. What to do about writing Christmas thank-you cards
      60. What about the children’s school grades
      61. When is something dusty enough to require dusting or vacuuming
      62. Who to call to personally wish them a Happy Birthday
      63. Do we say a prayer or not say a prayer before meals
      64. Do we get married; what last name does the wife take; wedding rings
      65. What is a good movie
      66. How late is too late to stay up
      67. What is a funny joke
      68. What is good sex
      69. What is too much or not enough sex
      70. How much is too much television; how many televisions to have
      71. Who decides how we drive there; who reads the map
      72. When to shovel the snow; how perfectly should it be shoveled
      73. What to keep in the freezer
      74. Where to clean the fish
      75. How many packages of chips to buy
      76. Where to shop for the best grocery deals
      77. Floss teeth before or after brushing; floss teeth at all
      78. Where to put the dirty clothes; when are clothes actually dirty
      79. When to fill the car up with gas; where; who checks the oil
      80. How many pairs of shoes to own
      81. How many movies are too many movies; buy or rent
      82. Where to keep notepaper and pens
      83. Where to keep the keys
      84. To color or not color the hair; makeup or no makeup; how long hair
      85. Sexual apparatus or not; sexual stimulants or not
      86. How much sleep is really needed
      87. To go to church or not; to belong to a church or not
      88. How many vitamins to take
      89. How much time to spend exercising
      90. How long to stay on the telephone
      91. How late should the kids stay out

      92. Should our daughter have an older boyfriend
      93. What clothes are decent for a teenager
      94. How much money to owe to banks or other people
      95. How much is too much alcohol, gambling, or drugs
      96. How much emergency food or supplies to keep around the house
      97. How much insurance to have
      98. When to mow the lawn; when to cut the shrubbery
      99. Are potatoes and carrots better peeled or with the skins on
      100. What constitutes flirting

    • Box Technology Experiments

      To get to know your own Box

      WHICH BOX HAVE YOU BUILT FOR YOURSELF?

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.01

       

      Through years of research, we have found that survival strategy box designs come in about 18 standard styles. Please review the 18 boxes website and make a list of the which of 18 boxes are similar to yours. Be clear and specific with examples.

       

      Write down in your Beep! Book which one of the 18 standard boxes you are. It could be that you are a mix of 2 or 3 boxes, usually not more than that.

       

      This experiment is to sit, for an hour, in a shopping mall, a cafe, or a bar, scan people as they go by, and identify each of the 18 boxes they are using.

       

      Then go to your next Possibility Team to report what you notice and scan the people in the Possibility team and see if they agree with what you scan in them.

       

      After the meeting, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.01 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

      OBSERVE YOUR BOX'S NITS AND YOUR NITS REACTION

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.02

       

      Review the list of 100 Nits above, and write down two lists in your Beep! Book:

      1. NITS OF MY BOX

      2. NITS OF OTHERS THAT DRIVE MY BOX CRAZY

       

      Each one of your Nits (see the context section above) AND each one of your Nit Reactions came from somewhere.

       

      This Experiment is to choose 10 of your Nits and 10 of your Nit Reactions and do whatever it takes to find exactly when and where they came from. What incident or interaction happened in that moment you Decided to build that particular Nit or the Nit Reaction into your Box?

       

      Do not try to change anything about the Nits or Nit Reactions at this point. This is a time for Self Observation, and for letting the unconscious pain or pain-avoidance technique become painfully conscious.

       

      Please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.02 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 3 Matrix Points.

      BOX TECHNOLOGY AND YOUR SURVIVAL STRATEGY

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.03

       

      The purpose of your box is for you to survive. What feeling comes to your emotional body each time your box feels active? The feeling is fear. This experiment is about noticing the connection between feeling your unconscious fear and your box reacting and taking over.

       

      List in your Beep! Book 10 times when your box becomes active and what the fear is actually about. When you find ten box reactions, describe your survival strategy, you can call it your 'survival statement'. Make your description short, clear, and powerful.

       

      Remember that your survival strategy is not good or bad, wrong or right, bad or worst. We use a survival strategy, and so far, you have survived (and that is good).

       

      Please, read out loud your condensed survival statement at your 3-cell, in your Possibility Team, to all your friends, and ask for feedback and coaching from your team about how accurate it is. And then, write down the revised version of your survival strategy on the front cover of your Beep! Book. So that you can find it quickly and then start noticing how often the purpose behind your behavior comes from your survival strategy.

       

      After writing this in your Beep! Book, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.03 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

      BOX TECHNOLOGY AND YOUR BELIEFS

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.04

       

      Beliefs are band-aids that you put on inside your box to cover up something that you do not understand, the unknown, or something that scares you. A belief's purpose is to cover up the hole and avoid feeling your fear. There is nothing wrong or bad with beliefs, but the consequence of beliefs is fanaticism, because if anyone confronts your beliefs you feel your fear about not knowing.

       

      Your box is decored with beliefs. This experiment is to use your feelings detector to locate the fears inside of your box and to write down in your Beep! Book each belief that you have taken on to cover each of your fears.

       

      Again, the point of this experiment is to notice, but not to do anything about your fears or beliefs. After making your list of beliefs, imagine starting a new religion, where the catechization is set beliefs. What would the priest say every Wednesday morning sermon about the nature of the world and your hopeless situation in it? Please write down the sermon and deliver it to your next Possibility Team and try to convert them into your new religion. And if you don't have a Possibility Team, go to the town square, stand on a box, and present your new religion, pontificate on your own religion

       

      After writing in your Beep! Book, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.04 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

      ANALYZING HOW YOUR BOX IS SO COMMITTED TO MAKING ASSUMPTIONS

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.05

       

      Part 1

      This experiment is to meditate for 15 minutes with your eyes closed seeking to enter in a state of zero assumptions. After you are in that state, slowly open your eyes and start the next part of your day, but notice each time you make an assumption.

       

      For example:

      • You assume that the eletricity will work today;
      • You assume that you are not going to be assaulted as you leave your house; 
      • You assume that what you put in your refrigirator will be still in refrigirator;
      • You assume that there will not be an earthquake right now;
      • You assume that you are okay or not okay as a person based in your box design;
      Write down in your Beep! Book the first 25 assumptions that you make. Don't be surprised if it takes you less than a couple of hours.
       

      Part 2

      This experiment is for after you write down 25 of your assumptions. Decide that all of your assumptions are false and notice what happens. Immediality call a friend and tell them that you're doing an experiment to assume that your assumptions are false. Ask them to tell you 3 assumptions that they know that you make that are false. Write down what they say and say "thank you."

       

      After writing this experiment in your Beep! Book, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.05 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

       

      DISCOVER THE WORLDVIEW OF YOUR BOX'S POSITIONALITY

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.06

       

      Make a list for the next 3 days, every time you are right and somebody else is wrong, and combine your positionality and write down in one condensed sentence your worldview (the world is like this, the world is not like that). Notice that your box would rather have no friends than give it up your positionality.

       

      Draw a sketch in your Beep! Book of this person who has held and defended their position about the world, and life, and men, and woman, and the environment, and politics, and money, and death, and viruses, and love. Take your sketch in your hand and hold it in front of a mirror, then look at yourself, then at the sketch, then at yourself, then at the sketch, and when some emotions come up, use them as a doorway to the Emotional Healing Process.

       

      After the emotional healing process, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.06 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

      DESIGN A SOCIETY WITH A MAXIMAL NUMBER OF PREJUDICES 

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.07

       

      Prejudice is a story that includes some people being superior and others being inferior.

       

      Write a 3 to 5 pages fiction short-story about a society you discovered that has a maximum number of prejudices. The story includes a lawyer whose job is to defend the prejudice, and there is a legal case against an 18-year person protesting all prejudices. Write down what the lawyer says, what the young person says, and what the judge says in the end. If you're thinking "but I can't write!" right now, use these emotions as a doorway to heal your inner writer.

      After you write the story, please share your treasure with the world by publishing it on medium.

       

      After publishing your story, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.07 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

      EXAMINE THE WORLD OF NATURE TO FIND CONCLUSIONS 

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.08

       

      This experiment is to spend an entire day on a walk through nature, closely examining the insects, the plants, the other animals, the wind, the sky, the clouds, and the water, then document every conclusion that they make.

       

      After your hiking adventure, sit with your Beep! Book in front of you and justify how you are part of nature and how your conclusions about yourself and other people and your life and nature separate you from nature.

       

      Write three verses, a one-page poem, about the battle between the human mind and these conclusions. There is a battle between these conclusions and the human mind and nature. What outcome of the battle? Share your poem on your media channels.

       

      After sharing your poem, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.08 in your free account at StartOver.XYZ. This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

      USING YOUR BOX TO NOT KNOW 

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.09

       

      A Projection is based on your assumption that you know the person (who they really are) you are projecting on. Since you know who the other person is, then your box can function in the usual way.

       

      Your knowing about a person or a situation that you are projecting is an exact description of your barrier to being Present. Use the knowing as a wake up call to find an experience of not knowing who the other person is. The way to do this is each time the 'knowing' arises in you, simply don't go there.

       

      For example:

      "He is doing this to me";

      "I know why she really did it";

      "He is always like this";

      "He never listens";

      "They ignore me";

       

      Then mark a red X in your mind, and don't go there. Go around it. So this experiment is to stand across somebody and look at the red X's, keep breathing and tell the person: "I just realized I don't know anything about you. Let's have lunch together" and take turns letting yourselves 'not know' and revealing authentic sharings from your Beings.

       

      Hint 1: Share about your fear of not knowing who the other person is.

      Hint 2: Don't tell too many stories from the past. Speak from the present.

       

      Before going to bed that same day, write down in your Beep! Book how much 'knowing' things about people limits you from discovering things about them.

       

      After having that conversation, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.09 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

      A DAY FULL OF EXPECTATIONS

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.10

       

      The difference between Assumptions and Expectations is not clear to everyone. An expectation usually aims at the fact that in the future something will be this way or that way or people will do or be this or that. An Assumption tends to describe something static and something that has already happened or has already been decided. "I assume that a Hungarian goulash will have a lot of paprika in it." One of 5000 possible Expectations that could arise from this assumption would be, "I expect the cook to season my Hungarian goulash with a good amount of paprika."

       

      This experiment is about noticing how many unconsious expectations you have, all the time. Set an alarm to go off every 30 minutes for the whole day tomorrow, from the moment you wake up to the moment you fall asleep (notice that this is already an expectation that you will wake up tomorrow). Every time the alarm rings, take a few minutes to write in your Beep!Book! 10 things you are expecting about the next 30 minutes, about yourself, others, the world.

      • I expect the bus to be here on time
      • I expect the bus driver to say "hello" back to me
      • I expect to find a seat on the bus
      • I expect that the person sitting next to me doesn't care about my life
      • I expect that Jana will call me because she said she would

      Don't let your box ruin this experiment by forgetting, use your conscious neurosis to make this experiment happen. Leave pens everywhere, have a small notebook in your pockets, use your phone to take notes, whatever it takes, just make it happen.

       

      After living a day full of conscious expectations, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.10 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

      BOX TECHNOLOGY AND YOUR RESENTMENTS

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.11

       

      Please do the previous experiment before starting this one. I expect you to do that.

       

      You might have noticed that you have A LOT of expectations. There is nothing wrong or bad about Expectations, but when the person against whom who were holding our expectations does not fulfill it, what do we feel? Resentment from the experience that we have been betrayed. Someone did not behave the way we wanted them to so our Gremlin gets to have a delicious feast of Revenge. Resentment is an emotional reaction that you feel when you believe in a particular interpretation that you made up about something that happened which you think should NOT have happened, or about something that did NOT happen that you think SHOULD HAVE happened.

       

      This experiment is about finding the resentments that you unsconsiouly create from your unfulfilled expectations. Take out your Beep! Book and go to your writings about your expectations. As you read each one, start noticing the underlying thoughts, feelings and emotions that you are having about them as well.

      • "Stupid bus company, they're never on time!"
      • "This driver is a horrible person! I'll never say hello again!"
      • "Am I expected to be standing the whole way?!"
      • "Why is that weirdo asking me how I am doing?"
      • "So what if Jana doesn't call me, I don't care about her anyways!"

      Notice how much Revenge you get to have during your day. Notice the pain you are feeling about it. Notice that you wish for something different from now on. Great news! Resentment is optional. Resentment is an option that is chosen by your Box and Gremlin, not chosen by your Being.

       

      After going through your list of expectations and uncovering your hidden revenge plots, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.11 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

      BOX TECHNOLOGY AND YOUR FANTASY WORLDS

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12

       

      Hope, Nostalgia, Denial, Obsession, Projections, Complaining, Expectations, Positionality, Reasons, Beliefs, Prejudices, Justifications, Resentment, Assumptions, Conclusions... All of these and more are Fantasy Worlds.

       

      This experiment is about finding out the Fantasy Worlds you live in. Take out your Beep! Book and for 30 minutes write down the Fantasy Worlds that your life is built around. For example, here are some domains you can look into:

       

      • About you waking up one day and finally being okay

      • About one day becoming rich

      • About being beautiful or not

      • About being a good person or not

      • About being friends with your friends

      • About people being inherently good

      • About not having any more problems in your life
      • About your parents and childhood being good or bad
      • About whether you have a nice house or not
      • About what career you should be doing
      • About your 10 year life plan

      • Your retirement plans

      • About how your parenting should be

       

      Do not turn this into a inner discussion, this is a research Experiment and the result will be a long list of possible Fantasy World bubbles that you have been living inside of for a good part of your life. Please note that a Fantasy World is not bad or wrong. It is a survival strategy and since you survived, the Fantasy World has served its purpose.

       

      After writing down your Fantasy Worlds, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.12 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

      BOX TECHNOLOGY AND YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.13

       

      Perhaps you were not aware that you - your Box that is - interacts differently with other people - their Box that is - depending on their sex. Ask yourself this question: do I behave around my men friends the same way as I do around my women friends? (Probably not) Some things are okay for you to show and some should stay 'hidden'.

       

      This experiment is about noticing how you relate to people of the opposite sex. For a whole day, live with the question "how does my Box behave around members of the opposite sex?" and write in your Beep! Book all the strategies that you use flirting, being nicer or meaner, changing the tone of your voice, acting like a child, being scared, being arrogant, controlling, mysterious manipulative, dominant, adaptive...

       

      Once you have your list, embody your Box as if it were who you really are and record a 3 minutes video sharing how it is to be this way, what feelings you have from inside, what makes it okay, what makes it cool, what makes it so comfortable. Title the video 'Who I think I should be around people from the opposite sex' and upload it on social media.

       

      After uploading your video, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.13 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

      LIST THE STORIES YOUR BOX HOLDS ABOUT MEN

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.14

       

      Could it be that who you really are is not what you think about yourself but rather what is coming out of other people’s mouths about you? If so, then if you want to change who you are, you need to behave in such a way that what comes out of other people’s mouths about you changes. Your feedback meter is the effect you are causing in other people’s experience of you. This consideration becomes even more interesting when you realize that you have the power to choose what experience you have of other people. If who another person is, is the experience that you have of them - and what you say about your experience of them - and if you have the ability to select what story you make up about the experience you are having right now in each moment about the other person, then you have the ability to reinvent who someone else is.

       

      Your Box has stories about Men, about what and who they should be or not be, about how much they should or should not have, about how they should or should not behave. Examples of stories you can have are:

      • "Real men" aren't supposed to have needs
      • "Real men" aren't supposed to have feeling
      • "Real men aren't supposed to express much of anything
      • The man has to go to work to make enough money to feed the family
      • All men are assholes
      • The world would be better without men
      • I cannot survive without a man in my life
      • Men are stronger than women
      • Men must atone for "the sins of the patriarchy" and not repress or control women in any way, even if we are being treated poorly. After all, "real men" are "tough enough" to not be emotionally impacted."
      Sit on a public bench, take out your Beep! Book and observe men passing by for one hour. Make a list of 50 stories your Box holds about men.
       
      If you are a man, notice the pain of having these Box stories dictating your own life. If you are a woman, notice the pain of not being able to relate to men who don't fit your Box's description.
       
      After listing your 50 stories, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.14 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

      LIST THE STORIES YOUR BOX HOLDS ABOUT WOMEN

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.15

       

      Could it be that who you really are is not what you think about yourself but rather what is coming out of other people’s mouths about you? If so, then if you want to change who you are, you need to behave in such a way that what comes out of other people’s mouths about you changes. Your feedback meter is the effect you are causing in other people’s experience of you. This consideration becomes even more interesting when you realize that you have the power to choose what experience you have of other people. If who another person is, is the experience that you have of them - and what you say about your experience of them - and if you have the ability to select what story you make up about the experience you are having right now in each moment about the other person, then you have the ability to reinvent who someone else is.

       

      Your Box has stories about women, about what and who they should be or not be, about how much they should or should not have, about how they should or should not behave. Examples of stories you can have are:

      • Woman are too needy
      • Women express and feel too much
      • Women should stay at home
      • All women hate men
      • My life would be better without women
      • Women are weaker than men
      Take out your Beep! Book and make a list of 50 stories your Box holds about women.
       
      If you are a woman, notice the pain of having these Box stories dictating your own life. If you are a man, notice the pain of not being able to relate to women who don't fit your Box's description.
       
      After listing your 50 stories, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.15 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

      BOX TECHNOLOGY AND YOUR ROLES

      Matrix Code SPARK187.00

       

      Download SPARK187 - 'you do not have roles, you have a life'. Read it at your next Possibility Team meeting and do the experiments together.

       

      After doing the experiments, please register Matrix Code SPARK187.00 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

      BOX TECHNOLOGY AND THE DESIGN OF YOUR BOX

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.16

       

      This experiment is about getting very clear about your Box's design by drawing it with excruciatingly precise detail.

      Get out your Beep!Book and draw a picture of your Box with the different shapes, characteristics, regions, domains of interest, and all the things and spaces that your Box has control of in your life.

      Share your drawing with your 3-Cell or Possibility Team.

       

      After sharing your drawing, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.16 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

      BOX TECHNOLOGY AND THE COMPARISON WITH OTHERS

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.17

       

      This experiment is about learning to differentiate between your Box and someone else's Box.

       

      Make a list of 150 differences and similarities between your Box and the Box of someone else you are living with or see on a regular basis.

      Notice that some things emerge from your Box and some from their Box.

      For example:

      • your desk has to be full of papers, notes, and cables while their desk has to be neat and tidy.
      • you want the shoes to be neatly arranged by the front door, while they want them to be outside the house.
      • your box has to be on time while theirs has to be too early or too late.
      After making your list, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.17 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

      TWO BOXES OCCUPY THE SAME SPACE AT THE SAME TIME

      Matrix Code BOXTECHN.18

       

      Write a short theatre piece, not longer than 5 minutes, involving two characters with completely different Boxes who are speaking to each other. Make it a conscious Box to Box conversation. How do they relate? What do they say? What do they not say? For inspiration watch Eddie Izzard's Dressed To Kill.

      After you write your script, film yourself playing both sides. Dress the way they would dress, talk the way they would, mimic their facial expressions and body movements.

        After uploading the video, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.18 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

        WHEN YOUR BOX TAKES OVER

        Matrix Code BOXTECHN.19

         

        Your Box has an edge. As soon as you reach it, the Box will want to take command. This experiment is about detecting the exact moment when this happens.

        When you feel an Emotion, which of the 5 bodies gets activated and runs on a survival or comfort driver? At what point do you loose being a free being? What does being on your edge look and feel like?

        Take out your Beep!Book and start writing. This noticing might take more than a few times of being on the edge to make a complete and clear image of your box mechanism.

         

        After doing this experiment, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.19 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

        BOX TECHNOLOGY AND YOUR REACTIVITY

        Matrix Code BOXTECHN.20

         

        Buttons are designed into the surface of your Box as survival strategy reaction patterns. Buttons are automatic reactions. They get pushed - even unintentionally - by another Box that has a different shape than your Box (different rules, habits, assumptions, expectations, decisions, etc.) When you are with people who irritate you, your Buttons get pushed. Anybody can push your Buttons. Watch the Gremlins of children push the Buttons on their parents' Boxes over and over, just for entertainment.

         

        This experiment is about discovering your Buttons. The way to notice that your reactivity is coming from one of your Buttons being pushed is to use non-judgemental Self Observation. Sooner or later you will find the Button by recognizing the repeated emotional reactivity in the same circumstances. When you notice it, write it down immediately in your Beep! Book. Each Button you find and deactivate is key to a treasure chest of a more wonderful life.

         

        Make a list of the buttons on your Box and the reaction you have to each of them.

         

        After doing this experiment, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.20 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

        HELLO, THIS IS MY BOX.

        Matrix Code BOXTECHN.21

         

        Obtain a cardboard box and carry it around for 24 hours. This is your Box. Every time you find a button, write it or draw it on the Box. Examples: "I have to be on time", "I am vegan", "both my socks have to be matching", "if somebody is late I get to hate them". Keep the cardboard box in your wardrobe as a reminder that it is optional.

         

        After doing this experiment, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.21 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

        BOX TECHNOLOGY AND YOUR POSSIBILITY TEAM

        Matrix Code BOXTECHN.22

         

        Split in pairs in a Possibility Team and start having a conversation. One sentence is about making your Box more comfortable: "could you turn the music down?" It's about staying in your marshmallow zone. The next offer is to go to the edge of your Box: "I want to hear some loud death metal music." And then you go back to the marshmallow zone, and then back to your edge. Keep doing that to have the conscious experience of how it is to be in your marshmallow zone and on your edge.

         

        After doing this experiment, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.22 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

        SOLVE YOUR OWN BOX PROBLEM BY SHIFTING IDENTITY

        Matrix Code BOXTECHN.23

         

        Is it really a problem or is your Box making it a problem?

         

        For the next 3 days, everytime you run into a problem, use it as an opportunity to wake up and Shift Identity. Do a 360 degrees spin and become someone different, someone who does not think that this situation is a problem, and watch them handle it.

        The next time you catch yourself saying "There is no more dish soap!" shift identity and become an elder who can improvise their own instant dish soap using ingredients from the kitchen, or a scout who can use the charcoal from the fireplace as a substitute for dish soap.

         

        After doing this experiment, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.23 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

        WHO IS SPEAKING?

        Matrix Code BOXTECHN.24

         

        In your next Possibility Team, get in groups of 3. One person is the speaker, the other listens, and the third is the coach. For one hour, take turns for each role. As a speaker you let something besides your Box speak. Coach says "that's your Box, I want to hear something from your Being", or "something besides your box, like your Pearl, Archetypal Lineage, your anger, your child ego state".

         

        After doing this experiment, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.24 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

        SPEED OF YOUR BOX SPEAKING

        Matrix Code BOXTECHN.25

         

        For a week, 3 times a day, change the speed of your Speaking either uncomfortably faster or slower, and speak with another person for 10 minutes.

         

        After doing this experiment, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.25 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

        CHANGE YOUR SPEAKING

        Matrix Code BOXTECHN.26

         

        For a week, 3 times a day, change your speaking. Speak from a different character, from a different country or time, from with a different religion than yours, sexual orientation, from a differently-abled person, with a speech impediment, from someone who is missing something, or is a teacher, or doctor, or president, and speak for 10 minutes.

         

        After doing this experiment, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.26 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

        IMITATE ANOTHER BOX

        Matrix Code BOXTECHN.27

         

        Pick one of your friends or house mates and imitate their neurotic small subtle behaviours for a whole day. Tell them that you are doing an experiment and learning to be more flexible with yourself.

         

        After doing this experiment, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.27 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

        AGREE WITH THE BOXES

        Matrix Code BOXTECHN.28

         

        During a whole day, every time you are having a conversation with someone, just agree with their reactions, conclusions, and projections. Do this in the same day with 10 different Boxes.

         

        After doing this experiment, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.28 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

        TELL THEM ABOUT THEIR BOX

        Matrix Code BOXTECHN.29

         

        In pairs, tell the person in front of you about their Box. Example: "I see you think you are a women, I see that you think you are from Paris, I see that you have the story that you like orange juice." Ask them to tell you about yours.

         

        After doing this experiment, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.29 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

        AMBIDEXTROUS

        Matrix Code BOXTECHN.30

         

        This is a one month experiment. Make a list of 10 things that you always do using your dextrous hand. For example: using the mouse pad on your laptop, tying a knot, taking notes on your Beep! Book, brushing your teeth, using the fork.

         

        During the first week, choose one thing from the list and use your less dextrous hand to do it instead of using your dextrous hand. In the second week, add one thing from the list, while keeping the first one as well. Third week, add a third element. Fourth, same.

        Notice how using your less dextrous hand affects your Center, your Presence, your Attention. Write an article about what you've learned from using your ambidextrous hand.

         

        After publishing the article, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.30 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

        PLEASE TELL ME HOW I HAVE CHANGED OR NOT CHANGED

        Matrix Code BOXTECHN.31

         

        Call up your mother, brother, sister or someone who knows you since a very long time. Tell them "I think that I changed. I think there are a few things that I did not change. Please tell me about all the ways that I have not changed." Write them all down in your Beep!Book, even if you disagree, even if you think you have done so much work on that particular thing, even if your Gremlin wants to annihilate them. When they are finished, thank them, and ask them if they would like to hear how they have changed. If they say yes, speak from somewhere else than your Box and be surprised by how much they changed.

         

        After doing this experiment, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.31 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

        BOX FREAKING PRODUCTS

        Matrix Code BOXTECHN.32

         

        Go to the store and buy 4 different natural products that your box doesn't want you to use: charcoal toothpaste, skin cream which is only made of aloe vera, placenta healing salve, etc. Use the products and Notice your Box Reactions.

        Write down in your Beep! Book the exact reactions, how your Box tries to control, what comments it creates in your head to defend itself.

         

        After doing this experiment, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.32 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

        HOW DOES YOUR BOX DRESS?

        Matrix Code BOXTECHN.33

         

        Go to the a clothing store and for the first 10 minutes observe your Box trying to pick what you want to wear. Instead, buy 3 different clothing items that your box freaks out about. Notice the voices in your head. "This is too black", "People can see my knees", "They would think I'm a weirdo", "It is too much", "That is not my style."

        For the next 3 days, wear one of the pieces per day and observe your box freaking out the whole day, and keep breathing. Notice how people interact with you now that you dress differently. Are they interacting with your Box, asking you why you are dressed differently, or do they interact with a different part of you?

         

        After wearing the four different clothes, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.33 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

        WHAT DOES YOUR BOX LIKE TO EAT?

        Matrix Code BOXTECHN.34

         

        Next time you go to the restaurant, take the menu and put your finger on the dish that you want to eat, then slide your finger down to the next item and order that one instead. Shoot a video of yourself taking the first bite of the surprise meal.

         

        After doing this experiment, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.34 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

        CHANGE YOUR MIND

        Matrix Code BOXTECHN.35

         

        Next time you go to the restaurant, order what you want and when you receive it don't eat it.

         

        After doing this experiment, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.35 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

        YOUR BOX AND PERFECTIONISM

        Matrix Code BOXTECHN.36

         

        Next time you put on lipstick, smear the side. Tie your tie badly, leave your collar upright. Leave your hair half messy. Go to work like this.

         

        After doing this experiment, please register Matrix Code BOXTECHN.36 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

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        The Nothing Box (Matrix Code YOUTUBEx.46 for StartOver.xyz)

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