Through years of research, we have found that survival strategy box designs come in about 18 different standard styles. In your Possibility Team or 3cell read the 18 boxes website together.

Then scan each other for which one of the standard boxes you are. It could be that you are a mix of 2 or 3 boxes, usually not more than that. Be clear and specific with examples of how this specific box shows up in the behavior, speech and interactions of the person who is being scanned. Play conscious theater to make the box obvious.

Write down in your Beep! Book what kind of box you have built for yourself.

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This experiment is to sit, for an hour in a shopping mall, a park, a cafe or a bar and scan people for their box as they go by. Which one of the 18 standard boxes are they using? Sit until you have identifed each one of the 18 boxes in different people. Be clear and specific about how it shows up in the way they walk, talk, look around, hold their shopping bags, go with the dog and so on.

This is a fun experiment to do together with another person. Stay neutral observers! Do not let your Gremlin use this as a gossiping feeding frenzy.

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Review the list of 100 Nits above, and write down two lists in your Beep! Book:

1. NITS OF MY BOX

2. NITS OF OTHERS THAT DRIVE MY BOX CRAZY

Each one of your Nits (see the context section above) AND each one of your Nit Reactions came from somewhere.

This Experiment is to choose 10 of your Nits and 10 of your Nit Reactions. Bring them to your Possibility Team. Sit across from somebody and whatever it takes to find exactly when and where they came from. What incident or interaction happened in that moment you Decided to build that particular Nit or the Nit Reaction into your Box? The other person can ask that question over and over again until you get to the origin of the Nit and Nit Reaction.

Do not try to change anything about the Nits or Nit Reactions at this point. This is a time for Self Observation and for letting the unconscious pain or pain-avoidance technique become painfully conscious.

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For this experiment use the two list of NITs you made in the previous experiment.

For one day make sure that all your prefered NITs are fullfilled. Be absolutely neurorotic about how your Box wants things to be. Whenever your partner or the people you live with change anything to how their Box wants things to be (for example the famous toilet paper roll), do not start a fight or low drama. Simply change it back to the way your Box preferres.

Notice how pleased your Box is and how pleased the other boxes are. Notice the differences and similarities between your Boxes. Notice how these can cause either fighting or harmony between Boxes.

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Beliefs are band-aids that you put on inside your box to cover up something that you do not understand, the unknown, or something you do not have words for. This is scary stuff so a belief's purpose is to cover up the hole and avoid feeling your fear. There is nothing wrong or bad with beliefs and the consequence of beliefs is fanaticism, because if anyone confronts your beliefs you need to defend them otherwise you would feel the fear behind. A belief is not connected to reality.

Your box is decorated with beliefs. "War is necessary for peace.", "Veganism will save the world.", "A man has to be strong.", "If I am a good girl all my life God will send me to heaven.", "I believe it is going to rain.", ...

They have a certain rigidity and prevent you from taking action in a certain way. If you believe a man has to be strong you will prevent yourself from being vulnerable at any time.

For 5 days write down all the beliefs that you detect in your Beep!-Book. Then take some time to write down 10 things you could believe. Take the second list to your Possibility Team, pick one and try to convince your Team for 20 minutes of this belief. Hold a speech, why everyone should believe in this. You can start a new religion here! Notice how anyone can belief anything about anything.

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Positionality is different than taking a stand. By taking on a position you lock your being into the prison of that position. This prevents you from playing full out and growing beyond your box' positionality. You can take a position by siding with a political party, a movement (like feminism, veganism, stoicism,...), a brand of clothing, a sports club or in investment, child raising, health, education,... Your box defends your positionality by being right about it and making the positions of others wrong. Notice that your box would rather have no friends than give it up your positionality.

Go to one of your families events like a wedding, a birthday celebration or any other get-together. Engage actively in 10 conversations with 10 different people. You do not have to know them.

- In 5 conversations notice every time you try to be right and make somebody else wrong. What is the position behind it that you try to defend? Try not to change anything about your Positionality.

- In 5 conversations agree with the Positionality of the other person. Do not defend yourself. There is nothing to defend, when you do not have a position.

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Prejudice is a story that includes some people being superior and others being inferior. By honing your own prejudices against someone you think you know who the other person is.

Write a 3 to 5 pages fiction short-story about a society you invent that has a maximum number of prejudices. The story includes a couple relating with each other in that society. How do the prejudices of the society affect the couples relating? What prejudices do they have with each other?

After you write the story, please share your treasure with the world by publishing it on medium.

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Reasons are the most powerful way to defend your Box. It is widely accepted in modern culture that who ever can give a good enough reason can get out of anything. Reasons avoid responsibility. Without a reason you are unpredictable and practically insane.

For one entire day from the moment you get up until you go to bed at night put a Reason onto every move you make. Explain why you are drinking water now, why you shift in your chair, why you open the window, why you wear the blue shirt today, why you did not salt the food, why you want to talk to someone, why you scratch your ear,...

Become excruitiatingly aware how precise your Box wants to be in its Reason making. Doesn't that feel sane now?

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A Projection is based on your assumption that you know the person (who they really are) you are projecting on. Since you know who the other person is, then your box can function in the usual way. "He is a caring father", "She is a cheater", "He always drinks coffee in the morning", "She loves me",...

Your knowing about a person or a situation that you are projecting is an exact description of your barrier to being Present. Use the knowing as a wake up call to be in the unknown together. The way to do this is each time the 'knowing' arises in you, simply don't go there.

This experiment is to stand across somebody look at them, keep breathing and tell the person: "I just realized I don't know anything about you. Let's have lunch together" and the entire lunch do not know who you are interacting with. Whenever a Projection of knowing arises in the space between you go back to not knowing.

Hint 1: Share about your fear of not knowing who the other person is.

Hint 2: Don't tell too many stories from the past. Speak from the present.

Before going to bed that same day, write down in your Beep! Book how much 'knowing' things about people limits you from discovering things about them.

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Assumptions are the soil for expectactions to grow in because you believe your asssumption is true. It happens so fast. You think that the other people know exactly what you think and you think you know what the other people think. You make assumptions all the time about the world and other people.

For example:

• You assume that the postman delivers your post where it needs to go
• You assume that your partner understood what you just said
• You assume that what you put in your refrigirator will be still in the refrigirator when you come back by the end of the day
• You assume that the other person will still remember the agreement you made a week ago
• You assume that your partner knows how to take care of the kids

Write down in your Beep! Book the first 25 assumptions that you make. Don't be surprised if it takes you less than a couple of hours.

Decide that all of your assumptions are false and declare a monthlong "Assumption-free time". Make no assumptions for a month.

Whenever you catch yourself making an assumption, without punishing yourself go back to the assumption-free space. Staying free of assumptions takes more communication that you are used to in your daily life. This means you probably need to call people up to ask them if your agreement from one week ago is still valid. Or reassure yourself that your partner heard what you just said by asking them to complete the communication. Or you need to call in the post office if they really send out your letter to overseas. Or you need to show your partner in detail how you want them to hold your child.

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You are clever. Because you are clever, you assume that all these assumptions you make are true. This is how you turn them into expectations.

You assume your partner knows how to set the boundary with the neighbor who turns the music up every night so that you cannot sleep well. You assume he knows how to set the boundary and then you assume your assumption is true. Now you expect him to be able to set this boundary.

If he fails your whole worldview collapses. The picture you had about your partner collapses. You resent him to not be able to fullfill your expectation. This is so painful for you that you want to take revenge on him. A perfect Gremlin feeding frenzy!

In this experiment you look at your relating with your partner. Write down every single expectation you find and do not stop until you find 100. Whenever you find one, stop with what you are doing and immediately call up your partner and take the expectation back with the following process:

1) Choose one well-justified expectation that you have held about your partner for some time.

2) Say “I have been holding onto an expectation of you that _______,” (fill in the blank with the specifics of your expectation)

3) Say, “I withdraw FOREVER the expectation that you _______.”

4) Then say nothing. Calmly wait in the new space you have just created. Stay present. Stay connected. Let the feelings come up. Keep breathing.

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Please do the previous experiment before starting this one. I expect you to do that.

Now take a look at Resentment. Someone did not behave the way we wanted them to so our Gremlin gets to have a delicious feast of Revenge. Resentment is an emotional reaction that you feel when you believe in a particular interpretation that you made up about something.

This experiment is about feeling the resentment that you unsconsiouly create from your unfulfilled expectations. Take out your Beep! Book and go to your writings about your expectations towards your partner and pick out 3 of them. Call up another Possibilitator and ask them listen to you while you do this experiment. (30 min)

Then express the resentment you feel when each of the expectations is not fullfilled. Express the thoughts of revenge, confusion, hatred, express how the body tenses up in resentment, express the way you energetically and physically withdraw from your partner, express all the emotions in the resentment. This will mostly be anger, mixed with sadness, fear or joy.

Notice how familiar and comfortable this is for your Box.

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This Experiment has two parts.

1) Together with your Possibility Team watch "Planet of the Humans" by Jeff Gibbs. Let yourself touch base with reality. You will feel something. Use the community of your Team to let your heart feel. Let everyone speak after the documentary ends.

2) Make a 5 - 8 minute video of yourself telling the Fantasy World story of the modern culture. Speak about how wonderful this Fantasy World is (the American Dream, all the ways to entertain youself, becoming rich, being beautiful and liked and cool, good intentions, the linear life plan, retirement homes, school, being sucessfull and being happy,...).

Paint the picture clearly about how living in Hope, Nostalgia, Denial, Obsession, Projections, Expectations, Positionality, Reasons, Beliefs, Prejudices, Justifications, Resentment, Assumptions and Conclusions in modern culture is creating a Fantasy World that has nothing to do with reality. Speak about the consequences for human potential and planet Earth.

Put your video on Youtube.

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Your Box has stories about men, about what and who they should be, do or have.

A man is stronger than a woman. Men do not show their feelings. Men are good with fixing things. Men have to make money. Men are the providers for their families. Men are contextholders. All men are assholes. Without a man a woman is worth nothing. Men always want sex. Men need to create war to entertain themselves. Men must protect women. My man holds space for me in our relating. Men must atone for "the sins of the patriarchy" and not repress or control women in any way, even if we are being treated poorly. After all, real men are tough enough to not be emotionally impacted. ...

Sit on a public bench, take out your Beep! Book and observe men passing by for one hour. Make a list of 50 stories your Box holds about men.

If you are a man, notice the pain of having these Box stories about other men dictating your own life. If you are a woman, notice the pain of not being able to relate to men who don't fit your Box's description. What other stories can you make up about men? How would that affect your relating to men?

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Your Box has stories about women, about what and who they should be, do or have.

Women are good with feelings. A woman needs to take care of the children. Women need to be beautiful. Women like gossiping. Women are weaker than men. Women need a strong man at their side telling them what to do or how to be. ...

Go to a shopping mall, take out your Beep! Book and observe women passing by for one hour. Make a list of 50 stories your Box holds about women.

If you are a woman, notice the pain of having these Box stories about other women dictating your own life. If you are a man, notice the pain of not being able to relate to women who don't fit your Box's description. What other stories can you make up about women? How would that affect your relating to women?

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Download SPARK187 - 'you do not have roles, you have a life'. Read it at your next Possibility Team meeting and do the experiments together.

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Write a short theatre piece, not longer than 5 minutes, involving at least two characters with completely different Boxes who are speaking to each other. Make it a conscious Box to Box conversation.

How do they relate? What do they say? What do they not say? For inspiration watch Eddie Izzard's Dressed To Kill.

After you write your script, take it to your Possibility Team and create the theater togeter. Film yourselves playing. Dress the way they would dress, talk the way they would, mimic their facial expressions and body movements.

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Buttons are designed into the surface of your Box as survival strategy reaction patterns. Buttons are automatic reactions. They get pushed - even unintentionally - by another Box that has a different shape than your Box (different rules, habits, assumptions, expectations, decisions, etc.) When you are with people who irritate you, your Buttons get pushed. Anybody can push your Buttons. Watch the Gremlins of children push the Buttons on their parents' Boxes over and over, just for entertainment.

This experiment is about discovering your Buttons. The way to notice that your reactivity is coming from one of your Buttons being pushed is to use non-judgemental Self Observation. Sooner or later you will find the Button by recognizing the repeated emotional reactivity in the same circumstances.

Build a cardboard Box and carry it around for 3 days. For each Button you detect during that time draw a little circle on the cardboard in which you write what the Button is about. Find at least 20 Buttons.

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Is it really a problem or is your Box making it a problem? Consider the possibility of having no problem. You can live in a space where there is no problem. One of the most effective ways to shift out of having a problem is to shift identity.

For the next 5 days, everytime you run into a problem, use it as an opportunity to wake up and Shift Identity. Do a real 360 degrees spin and become someone different, someone who does not think that this situation is a problem. This new identity has different ressources, a different way to use their voice, their body moves differently, they have a different sense of humor than your Box' boring self-centered repetative identity.

So the next time you catch yourself saying "There is no more dish soap!" shift identity and become an elder who can improvise their own instant dish soap using ingredients from the kitchen, or a scout who can use the charcoal from the fireplace as a substitute for dish soap.

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Your Box has a specific way of speaking. It includes assumptions, reasons, logic, expectations, conclusions, arguements and facts. The way your Box speaks is very different to when you let your Being speak or your Gremlin or your Archetypal Lineage or the Unknown.

In your next Possibility Team, get togehter in groups of 3. One person is the speaker, the other listens, and the third person is the coach. Take turns. For 15 minutes as a speaker you talk about a project that is dear to you. This experiment is to get an experiential sense of when your Box speaks versus when another part speaks. The job of the Coach is to give you direct Feedback on what part of you is speaking now "That is your Box", "That is your Gremlin", and the Coach can even request to hear other parts of you that have not spoken "I want to hear something from your Being/your anger/your archetypal lineage".

The Listeners job is to just listen.

Start and end the 15 minutes with speaking from your Box.

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The behaviors of your Box are repetative and mechanical. You took on a way to speak, to walk, to move, to think from the family and culture you were born into to survive in these circumstances. Congratulations! You have survived! Now it is time to try something else to get access to more options to choose from. It is possible to shift your Box' purpose from survival to living. One of the ways to do that is to use your Box' limitations as a diving board. Beware, this could be more fun than your Box is able to tolerate!

For a week, 3 times a day, change your speaking. Speak from a different character, from a different country or time, from with a different religion than yours, sexual orientation, from a differently-abled person, with a speech impediment, from someone who is missing something, or is a teacher, or doctor, or president, ... Speak for 10 minutes. Then shift back into "normal", meaning back into the speech pattern of your own Box.

If someone gets irritated, share with them distinctions about their Box and invite them to do the experiment with you.

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Pick one of your friends or house mates and imitate their neurotic small subtle behaviours for a whole day. Walk like them, talk to the person on the phone like them, fold your clothes like them, make lunch like they do (the amount of food, the quality, the spices they use, the way they clean up after themselves or not,...), dress like them,..

Tell them that you are doing an experiment and learning to be more flexible with yourself. Notice how your Boxes are different. Notice how your Box immediately wants to judge them for their Box behavior.

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Boxes want to be right. This makes total sense as your box is dedicated to your survival. Firstly it is dedicated to its own survival. Because when your Box survives, you survive. When your survival mechanism survive, your survival is guaranteed. This is why the Box tries to be right and defend itself through arguing.

Here comes a counter intuitive Box experiment for you.

During a whole day you agree with everybody. In every conversation with someone agree with their reactions, conclusions, assumptions, expectations and projections. Say Yes to them. Do not defend yourself. Have no opinion. Why do you want to have opinions in the first place?

If you do not let your Gremlin use this as a gossiping frenzy you might be able to feel the pain of the defensiveness of the Box.

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This is a one month experiment. Make a list of 10 things that you usually do using your dextrous hand. For example: using the mouse pad on your laptop, tying a knot, taking notes on your Beep! Book, brushing your teeth, using the fork,...

During the first week, choose one thing from the list and use your less dextrous hand to do it every time during the whole week instead of using your dextrous hand. In the second week, add one thing from the list, while keeping the first challenge one as well. Third week, add a third element. By the fourth week you have 3 actions you are training your less dextrous hand in and you add a fourth one. Keep going.

Notice how using your less dextrous hand affects your Center, your Presence, your Attention. Write an article about what you've learned from using your ambidextrous hand and publish it for everyone on Medium.

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It is logical to think that who you are is how you imagine yourself to be. It is reasonable to assume that you have the best assessment of your own qualities
because, after all, you are the one with the inside knowledge. You know what is
going on in the most intimate of your thoughts and feelings, so you would think that
you are the best judge of your own character. As logical and reasonable as this may
seem, it may not be true. This experiment suggest a reality check.

Call up your mother, brother, sister, close friends or someone who knows you since a very long time. Tell them "I think that I have changed. Please tell me all the ways you see that I have changed. And I think there are a few things that have not changed. Please tell me also about all the ways that I have not changed." Listen.

Write them all down in your Beep!Book, even if you disagree, even if you think you have done so much work on that particular thing, even if your Gremlin wants to annihilate them. When they are finished, thank them.

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Your Box is the filter between you and the vast unlimited potential of infinite possibility. It filters the possibilities for you accordingly to what assumptions, expectations, conclusions and ideas it is made out of. The filter of your Box will only allow you to see, experience and encounter situations and opportunities that fit into the Box' beliefsystem. Your Box filters the world according to the stories it has about the world.

One of your Box' Technologies is to proof the stories the Box has made up. If you think "Life is hard." then you will encounter situations that proof this. If you think "There is always something to fix, always something that can go better" then you will scan for things that are broken, not working, unfullfilled. The universe will give you what you ask for.

For this experiment organise an adventure day with your partner. (If you do not have a partner, go and get one.) This means go walking into town, have lunch at a café or restaurant, go to a bookstore, organise a bike ride, go swimming,...

For the first half of the day you put on your "things are broken/life is not fair/something can always go better/scarcity"-glasses on. Notice how you immediately scan your surroundings to proof that story.

After lunch you switch the 'glasses', the filter your Box uses into "Beauty is everywhere/life is easy/there is abundance in my life/things are in a perfectly functioning order". Notice how you immediately scan your surroundings to proof that story.

From which viewpoint would you prefere to meet the world? What story would you rather carry? What is in the way for you to live in a story which empowers and supports you?

Please write the answers to these questions and your discoveries from the day into your Beep!Book.

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